THE BLOG
On Perfectionism and “Self-Help” Culture
It’s a story we’re all told:
Try, try, try, and you will succeed.
It isn’t a story we are born understanding. Children,...
TDLR; Check out the YouTube video
Too often, recovery means an end to partying.
But I’m a party girl–I built my entire identity around it, and not drinking alcohol...
You can take a drink from a girl, but you can’t get the girl to stop drinking.
Although I stopped drinking for nearly five years, my oral fixation remains seemingly incurable. I chew gum,...
It begins with a gesture.
Maybe you’ve observed someone else performing the gesture: a celebrity, a writer—a hero of some kind. Maybe you’ve seen it on television or in movies, or...
“What a revelation,” Adichie notes, “how much laughter is a part of grief.”
A revelation indeed, since we have collectively deemed it inappropriate to revel in the...
Dysfunction lives in darkness.
Addictions thrive in secrecy, and bad habits—rendered sub-conscious by our well-meaning, efficiency-seeking brains— depend upon our ignorance of them to...
It goes like this:
You shut the door and dim the lights. Maybe you sit on the floor and fold your aching knees into painful geometric shapes. Maybe you even sit on an expensive ($30–$600 on...
For most of us, the topic of grief needs little explanation.
We have all lost something, and most of us mourn the things we have lost—a parent, a friend, a puppy, a prized heirloom, a job, a...
The following post is an excerpt from my new course "Rewiring Your Brain for Effortless Habit Change." The course will be available in a month, and you can pre-register by signing up here. The...
